SCIENTOLOGY'S REJECTION OF FAMILY
By Stacy Brooks, President of the LMT
August 13, 2000
Recently at the Lisa McPherson Trust, we helped a woman get out of
Scientology. She took her child with her, a child who at a very
young age had already been recruited into the Sea Org.
The woman's mother has been in the Sea Org for a long time. She came to
the woman's house, extremely upset that the woman had left but
particularly upset that she had taken her child out of the Sea Org. The
mother brought a sheet of paper with the tape excerpt below. She
frantically told the woman that she was throwing away her future and
urged her not to let considerations about her family stand in the way of
her freedom and that of her child.
The woman told her mother that she didn't want to be in Scientology any
more. Then the woman's mother pulled the child aside and in all
seriousness urged the child to file for legal emancipation from the
parents so that the child, who is underage, could go back into the Sea
The child was very upset but, according to the woman, is beginning to
enjoy interacting with other family members and friends. I asked the
woman to fax me a copy of the tape excerpt her mother had given her.
When I read the excerpt, it sickened me. I have never seen this excerpt
before. I have never seen a
quote from LRH in which he so clearly urges his followers to turn away
from their families.
Here is the text of the excerpt:
"THE GE IS A FAMILY MAN
The GE is a family man; the GE is lost without a family. It's very
strange, but Homo sap is a family unit. The GE is built on that basis.
It's fascinating, fascinating. It's not important to know it but a lot
of your urges toward families and so forth are not thetan urges at all,
they're the GE. The GE can't survive at all without a family unit. He's
just as dead as a mackerel if he isn't a family unit, whereas your
thetan is just dead as a mackerel if he gets
too mixed up in family units.
You can't talk to GEs; they're kind of psycho. And by the way, you can
fall into this dreadful trap with a GE. You see, he uses the MEST
universe with which to build. He's gotten very, very bad off and he has
to use MEST materials all the time.
So, you get this situation here with the GE, and your GE is busy: build,
build, build, build, build. And, of course he's got to have a family to
You get this terrific family thirst. And you get your GE surviving best
and being loused up the most because of interfamily relationships.
And your thetan, by the way, can much more easily go into a group.
Families are not good groups; they're bad groups."
LRH, From the taped lecture
"Flows: Patterns of Interaction"
10 December 1952
For you to understand why this quote affected me so strongly, I have to
translate LRH's Scientology-speak into plain language. First of all, the
GE is the Genetic Entity. The Scientology Tech Dictionary defines it
GENETIC ENTITY, 1. that beingness not dissimilar to the thetan which has
carried forward and developed the body from its earliest moments along
the evolutionary line on earth and which, through experience, necessity
and natural selection, has employed the counter-efforts of the
environment to fashion an organism of the type best fitted for survival,
limited only by the abilities of the genetic entity. The goal of
the genetic entity is survival on a much
grosser plane of materiality. (Scn 8-8008, p. 8) 2. formerly
referred to as the somatic mind. It has no real personality, it is
not the "I" of the body. This is the "mind" of an
animal, a dog or a cat or a cow. (HOM [History of Man], pp. 13-14)
3. that entity which is carrying along through time, that is making the
body through the time stream, through the action of sex and so
forth. (5410C10D) Abbr. GE
Now let me tell you how I understood it when I was in Scientology. I
want to try to give you a window into how Scientologists think. I want
you to understand how it could possibly be that Scientologists turn
against their own families and see it as an ethical thing to do; how
Scientologists can see their
feelings of love and loyalty to their families as something psychotic,
something they need to do away with in order to be good Scientologists.
This is how Scientologists are taught to think: The Genetic Entity is
the part of a person that is still tied to the universe of Matter,
Energy, Space and Time - known as the MEST Universe in Scientology --
that we will leave behind when we are able to become stably exterior
with full perceptics. This is the real goal of a Scientologist - to be
free of the MEST Universe, to be able to
discard the body and be completely free of the limitations of MEST. When
enough Scientologists reach that goal (a goal which no one to my
knowledge has yet attained) and Planet Earth has been cleared, they will
be able to travel at will anywhere in the galaxy to clear other planets
and, eventually, the entire MEST Universe. They will do this without the
encumbrance of their bodies, of course. They will be free of their
bodies. They will just pick up new bodies on whatever planet they go to.
They might be meat bodies like the ones on Earth, or they might be doll
bodies, or any of a variety of other kinds of bodies thetans use
throughout the MEST Universe. But the point is that they will be able to
mock them up at will, because they will be totally at cause over MEST.
Obviously, for someone who has it in their head that they are trying to
leave the MEST Universe behind, the Genetic Entity - and everything
connected to it -- is something from which one would have to distance
oneself. In fact, there is an insulting slang term in Scientology for
someone who is too much into their body, or too much into their family -
meaning their husband or wife, their children, their parents, brothers,
sisters, grandparents. A person like that is considered to be
"stuck in the GE." That's a very bad thing in Scientology.
Very out-ethics. Psychotic, in fact.
When LRH said in the tape excerpt that "your urges toward family
are not thetan urges at all, they're the GE," what he was saying
was that anyone who puts any importance on the family is going in a
direction toward MEST, not Theta. That is an out-ethics thing to do. It
is putting counter-intention on the forward motion of Scientology. It is
holding back the entire group.
When he said that "Homo sap is a family unit," he was
denigrating Homo sapiens for caring about family. He was saying
that Homo sapiens, the evolutionary phase of the human race before
Scientology came along, is a terribly primitive creature. Homo novis,
the superman that Scientology has made possible, is the
next evolutionary step, the superior being. Homo novis isn't interested
in families. Homo novis is at cause over Matter, Energy, Space and Time.
Who needs a family when you can exteriorize at will? Who needs to
procreate? Who would want to hold onto any connection to the MEST
Universe once you realized that those connections are doing nothing but
holding back the forward progress of the entire human race?
It is Homo sapiens - "Homo sap," as he says in the tape - who
needs a family. It is Homo sap who still has a connection to the GE. But
you see how LRH lets you know what a degraded being - what a Homo sap -
you are if you care about your family. Listen to what he says: "the
GE is as dead as a mackerel without the family unit, but the thetan
[that's Homo novis, which is only possible to
attain through Scientology] is as dead as a mackerel if he gets mixed up
with a family unit." So you are actually putting up a roadblock to
Mankind's forward progress by clinging to old, primitive notions such as
The message here is clear. If you're an ethical Scientologist you are
not going to hold onto MEST relationships like your family. You are
going to be much more interested in theta relationships like your fellow
Scientologists - people who have risen above MEST-oriented relationships
and are interested only in
theta-based relationships - those that will further Scientology's aims.
An ethical Scientologist only wants to associate with others who are
also striving for the enlightened state of Homo novis.
I no longer adhere to this belief system. I am no longer a
Scientologist. But for fifteen years I distanced myself from my family
and the friends I had had before I got into Scientology for this very
reason - I did not want to contaminate myself by associating with
unenlightened people. In Scientology this is called contagion of
aberration; you don't want to be around people who are stuck in MEST
because it might rub off on you. You don't want to do anything that will
slow you down from becoming an enlightened Theta Clear.
For those of you who are familiar with the term Suppressive Person, or
SP, and Potential Trouble Source, or PTS, it is upon this fundamental
concept that these terms are based. An SP is someone who is so stuck in
the MEST Universe (so solid) that they can't bear to have anyone around
them who is moving in the
direction of theta (the opposite of solid). A PTS is someone who has
allowed themselves to become vulnerable to an SP's influence and is
therefore getting more solid - less theta.
This is why Scientologists distance themselves from the rest of society.
It is why the Sea Org members in Clearwater refuse to make eye contact
with the citizens of Clearwater when they walk down the street. It is
why the Scientologist son of a dear friend of mine has refused to speak
to his mother for thirty years.
Recently a woman contacted the LMT for help. She had been happily
married for nearly twenty years. She and her husband had two beautiful
teenage children. They had a beautiful house and a wonderful life. She
considered herself the luckiest woman on Earth because she had such a
happy family. Then her husband got into Scientology. By the time she
spoke to me, her husband had gotten them nearly $100,000 in debt. He
wanted a divorce because she didn't want to be a Scientologist. He
refused to speak to either of his children because they didn't want to
be Scientologists. When she begged him to speak to someone with a
different point of view about Scientology he told her he would disappear
and never contact her again if she ever tried to put him in contact with
someone critical of Scientology. She and her children are heartbroken
over the loss of a man who was once a wonderful husband and father. He,
on the other hand, is convinced that she is an SP - that she is trying
to keep him from moving toward
the enlightened state of theta clear.
Another woman contacted the LMT recently about her sister, who has just
joined the Sea Org. The sister has two children. Now that she is in the
Sea Org, the children have been sent to the Sea Org children's ranch
north of Los Angeles. They never get to see their mother. They have been
sneaking phone calls to their aunt, tearfully asking their aunt why
their mother doesn't love them any
more. The mother, meanwhile, fully believes that her children are a
distraction from her production and that it is necessary to separate
from them so that she can realize her full potential. She also believes
that if the children are ethical, they, too, will benefit from severing
their ties with her, since their relationship is based on nothing more
than the fact that she is their biological mother, something which is
meaningless in the new society of Homo
At the LMT we get these heartbreaking calls nearly every day.
Today, I see the Genetic Entity, Homo novis, and the whole idea of
isolating oneself from the so-called MEST Universe and concentrating on
becoming Theta Clear as a delusion of grandeur which originated in the
unbalanced mind of L. Ron Hubbard. Hubbard was unable to have healthy
relationships with his parents, his three wives or any of his children.
But instead of taking any responsibility for these failed relationships,
he blamed his family members. Then he took it a step further. He created
an entire cosmology that would justify his inability to have successful
personal relationships. Families are bad, friendships are bad, any
close relationships are bad, because he was incapable of having them.
All he could conceive of was a world in which there is no love, no
compassion - nothing but impersonal, cold-hearted relationships based on
statistics and the "greatest good for the greatest number of
dynamics." What he said in the tape transcript sums it up:
"Families are not good groups; they're bad groups."
I realize I risk incurring the wrath of dedicated Scientologists by
saying what I did in the above paragraph. But I think it is extremely
important for Scientologists to realize that LRH does not have to have
been a perfect man for there to be any validity to the Tech. I speak to
people nearly every day who have had wins and gains from their auditing.
I never tell them their wins aren't valid. I never tell them the gains
aren't real. I'm happy if someone has
had wins and gains. The tech is not something I want for myself, but I
don't think everyone else has to feel the same way I do. I have no doubt
that many people have had wins and gains from the tech.
But this does not mean that LRH was perfect. I discovered he wasn't
perfect when I worked on the LRH biography research while I was still a
Sea Org member in good standing. This discovery did not cause me to lose
faith in the tech. All it did was to make me realize that even though
LRH developed a technology that could help people, he was a human being
just like the rest of us, with
blind spots and character flaws the same as everybody else. The problem
was that one of his flaws was an utter inability to accept any
criticism, and as a result of this he tended to label anyone who did
criticize him as an enemy. This flaw has now been institutionalized in
the organization known as the Church of Scientology.
But criticism is not a bad thing. It is a good thing. If the tech really
works - and I know many people feel it does - then it can bear critical
scrutiny. Just because someone criticizes something doesn't mean it
isn't valid. It doesn't mean that person is an enemy. Scientologists
must learn to differentiate between the parts of Scientology that are
valid and those parts of it which are not. LRH had a blind spot on the
subject of personal relationships and the flaws in his own thinking have
been inherited by the
organization called the Church of Scientology. It is crucial that
Scientologists begin to see that they have the right to accept those
parts of Scientology that work and to discard those parts that do not.
LRH's view of the family as a degraded, out-moded form of human
relationship is terribly destructive and urgently needs to be recognized
by Scientologists as a harmful part of the Scientology world view that
should be discarded. This does not mean I am advocating that the
entirety of the tech should be discarded. It means I think LRH had a
blind spot on this subject because of his own shortcomings, and I don't
think his personal shortcomings should be embraced by Scientologists so
that they take on his own blind spot as their own.
Until Scientologists become willing to differentiate the beneficial from
the harmful aspects of Scientology, the outside world will continue to
view it as a chillingly amoral belief system and respond accordingly to
For the people on the outside, the question is how do we get through to
the people who have bought into this chillingly amoral belief system?
How do we help the thousands upon thousands of families who have been
torn apart by Scientology? My answer is this: All we can do is continue
to do everything we can to get through to Scientologists at every
opportunity. Thank God for the
internet. It is our best chance to communicate to them. The most hopeful
thing of all at the LMT is that we are getting calls every day from
Scientologists who are making the decision to embrace their
Constitutional rights of freedom of speech, freedom of thought and
freedom of association. They are going on the internet despite orders
from the Organization not to. They are learning for themselves about all
sides of Scientology. They are regaining their powers of critical
thought and deciding for themselves which parts of Scientology they want
to embrace. And they are beginning to rebuild their own shattered lives
and broken families.
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